These are my favorite resources for learning more about love and relationships:
- Dr. Duana Welch's blog and list of articles by subject
- The Gottman Institute's blog
Sites:
- Safety and the brain, by Al Turtle
- Reddit’s marriage resources
- Mark Manson’s relationship advice compilation
- Learn about Nonviolent Communication (NVC), also known as Compassionate Communication: https://positivepsychology.com/non-violent-communication/
Instagram:
- Dr. Nicole LePera on Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist
Podcasts:
- Esther Perel: https://www.estherperel.com/focus-on-categories/communication-and-connection
- Tiffany Roe’s podcast Therapy Thoughts: https://tiffanyroe.com/blogs/therapy-thoughts-podcast
Recommended Reading
- Every successful relationship is successful for the same exact reasons by Mark Manson
- Why modern love is so damn hard, by Esther Perel (on the expectations we build & hold for each other)
- Why counseling doesn’t work in abusive relationships
- Get help sorting out whether a relationship is abusive - read articles or contact via live chat, text, or phone
- The secret to love is kindness
- She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink
- Relationship red flags and why we ignore them
- Love is not a mystery: https://onwisconsin.uwalumni.com/features/love-is-not-a-mystery/
- Understanding emotional regulation: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/general/what-is-emotional-regulation/
Community
See Reddit divorce and relationship advice groups:- https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/
- https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/
- https://www.reddit.com/r/KindVoice/
Books
- Love Factually: Ten Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, by Dr. Duana Welch (on the science behind love & dating; also see her blog, podcasts and list of articles by subject)
- The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, by Dr. John Gottman
- The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, by Gary Chapman
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find –and Keep–Love, by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
- Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: a Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship, by Mira Kirshenbaum
- Are You the One for Me, by Barbara DeAngeli
- Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down, by Dr. Kathleen Smith (The chapter on love is especially insightful.)
- Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships, by Diane Vaughan (more of an academic read but fascinating book on the uncoupling process.)
Fun stuff
- Back with the Ex (TV show on Netflix)
- The difference between being married and unmarried... (cartoon)
- The 5 love languages, translated into Burritoese
Have a resource to recommend? Drop me a line and I'll check it out: contact me.
