When your partner doesn't feel loved

According to "The Five Love Languages," there are 5 ways people express caring:

1. Gifts
2. Acts of service (like washing your beloved's car or doing the dishes)
3. Physical affection
4. Verbal expression (telling partners with words how much they mean)
5. Quality time

(The order can be arranged according to your own preferences, with your top two listed first. You can then compare this to your partner's arrangement and see if you two differ.)

Most people express their love in ways that they like to receive back. But if the things that make you feel loved do not make your partner feel loved, your caring won't reach them in the ways you hope.

So find out what makes them feel loved and do those things.

From a thread on /reddit:

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Here's nice exercise from the book: both partners should list at least 10 things the other person does that makes them feel cared for. They can be small and should answer the question, "I feel loved when...."

For example:

I feel loved when:

• You tuck the covers under my feet
• You take out the recyclables
• You make me coffee in the morning
• You gently wipe the hair out of my eyes
• You bring me dinner when I'm watching a game

 Try to come up with at least 10 small things your partner does to make you feel loved. Then share lists with each other and talk about them.

Then, every day, try to do at least 3 things on the list. Do this exercise again after a week and talk about how the week went, did you feel more connected? Falling in love is easy but staying in love takes regular, conscious actions, almost like doing sit-ups (except more fun!).

Spend time regularly connecting with your beloved in the ways that make them feel loved and feel your bond grow!